How to Seamlessly Get Her Back to Your Place‏

Answer: The MacGuffin.

Alfred Hitchcock coined the term "MacGuffin" as a narrative devise in his films that is used to advance the story along. The MacGuffin motivates the characters and keeps the action rolling along. Your fish tank. Your cat, your hamster who runs on his wheel backwards. The YouTube video that had you cracking up at work all day. Your framed, autographed, life size poster of Rick Moranis in My Blue Heaven.

It doesn't matter what it is as long as it's interesting and you're passionate about it. Remember, the MacGuffin serves a purpose. It motivates the characters and drives the story.

To effectively use a MacGuffin it needs to be "seeded." Seed it earlier in the interaction by bringing it up in conversation, speak excitedly about it and why it's important but then drop it.

Don't invite her just yet or hint that she should "check it out later." Get her interested in it and then change the subject. You've just seeded the MacGuffin and if you spend the rest of the night on a fun, emotionally stimulating date then it will pay off for you later.

The MacGuffin only proves valuable after the two of you form a connection. Whisk her off on an adventurous evening, make each other laugh, tease each other. Or sweep her off her feet on a romantic night. Plan a memorable date that makes the barriers fall and emotions rise.

There's no magic formula but an officially good date is one that brings the two of you together to share a unique, stimulating experience and relaxes you both into dropping your guard and growing comfortable around one another. All great dates involve the making or strengthening of an emotional connection.

Then, as the date is winding to an end, you mention the MacGuffin again and it's almost like an afterthought. "Oh, you gotta see that YouTube
clip I was telling you about real quick." It’s always real quick. She can’t stay long.

I place that false time constraint even on my beloved, go-to MacGuffin: Guitar Hero. "If you beat 'Welcome to the Jungle' on medium you get a cookie. But we're only playing two songs each because that game is so addictive it's evil and plus I gotta be up early tomorrow."

You must give her plausible deniability. You're creating a situation for the both of you to be
swept up in the emotional current of the evening and the MacGuffin prevents a break in the
momentum.

For a woman, going into a man's home with him causes a jolt of caution. You're job is to create
a non-threatening atmosphere for the two of you to be alone in your apartment that won't leave
her feeling too promiscuous.

Once a woman agrees and accompanies you back to your place then the MacGuffin has successfully served its purpose. Consider her willingness to be alone with you in such a setting as a sign of comfort and a green light in general. The final stages of physical escalation can now begin.

The Keys to Dressing Well and Your Identity

What you wear ought to be an introduction to the book of you. This introduction must be intriguing enough for her to want to read your book cover to cover. Choose wisely and you are on your way to a bestseller. After all, the point of your wardrobe is to really communicate your best qualities.

DEVELOPING YOUR IDENTITY THROUGH WARDROBE

Take some time with this concept. Make a list of interesting and high value qualities that you would like a woman to know about you. Consider some of these points when compiling your list:

1. What are your hobbies and your down time
activities?

2. What's your favorite genre of music?

3. What era do you find yourself most inclined
to aesthetically or ideologically?

4. Do you have a favorite art medium, artist,
or art movement?

5. What do you do for a living?

6. What are your passions or dreams?

7. Who are your heroes in life? (historical figures, authors, family members, etc.)

8. What is your spiritual alignment?

9. Are you well traveled?

Those are just a few questions to aid your brainstorm. After you define some of these points then begin to think:

How can I subtly convey these interesting points about myself with my clothing and
accessories?

Begin to answer this question with your wardrobe, then you're demonstrating high value to women without words, but merely by entering a room.


DRESSING WELL WITH PROPER FIT

As men, we just tend to throw on clothes not giving a moment’s thought to how it makes our form look. It benefits us to think more like a woman in this regard. To get started, begin asking yourself questions like the ones below:

1. What are my best physical features and how can I highlight them with my wardrobe?

For example, do you have strong shoulders, muscular legs, a well defined chest, etc.

2. What are my least attractive physical features that I would like to disguise?

For example, do you have a bit of a beer gut, are you shorter than the average man, do you have weak shoulders, etc.

The good news is we can use fashion to make all of these features more attractive! Get in the habit of looking in a full length mirror before you go out. It doesn't make you a narcissist to take a few glances at yourself before you head out the door, it's what you ought to be doing.


THE IMPORTANCE OF THE FULL PICTURE

Look at the way your outfit is pieced all together and note if there are any places in your silhouette where there are unseemly bulges or clothing out of place that break up the intended sleek shape.

Fix these when possible. Sometimes it can be as simple as putting a cell phone in a different pocket or tucking a shirt in. Take notice of where your eyes are first drawn to on your outfit. If it isn't the area that you want people to look at first, then you should readjust.

It may mean that you change your color palette or remove an offending accessory that draws the eye away from the area you would prefer to be the first spot of focus.

Start with these simple steps and you are on your way to cutting the image women will find irresistible to notice.


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Remember, there are many ways to generate attraction, and you shouldn't forsake any of
them. Push/Pull, DHVs, preselection, pebbles, and all of those other tools are all great...

...but none of them substitute for leaving the house looking your best.

Pump Her Desire with Your Words‏

3 Lessons to Amp Your Seductive Conversation


"All great lovers are articulate, and verbalseduction is the surest road to actual seduction."

By : Marya Mannes

If you've ever wanted to be the guy who couldturn up the seduction knob in your nightly conversations, then you're going to have to do exactly what you're about to read. Next time you're out at nightclub, take a look at the shoes the girl nearest to you is wearing. Now take a look at yours. They're different, right?

Now, take a moment, and imagine yourself in them. The key to seductive conversation is the ability to see yourself from someone else's perspective. How do you imagine your conversations sound from her point of view?Do you sound like the charmer you thought you were? Or are you just another guy saying the same guy things in the same guy ways?

The following three lessons will help you add some seductive flavor to your bland everyday conversation:


1. Listen and Think Before You Talk

"I like to listen. I have learned a great deal from listening carefully. Most people never listen." - Ernest Hemmingway

Pay Attention! It may be shocking to most men, but women have things to say too! What she says can tell you a lot about who she is,if you know how to listen. There is a recipe for seduction hidden in everything a person says and does. Listen to her stories; a good social artist can learn volumes about a person by simply paying attention to what someone says.

- Listen to the words they use, the topics they bring up, and the topics they respond to. Then ask yourself, "Why is this person saying what they are saying? What does our conversation tell me about this person?"

- When you do respond, do not say the first thing that comes to your mind. Take a moment to think about what you re going to say then respond.

- Don't voice your opinion without thinking about it first. Ask yourself, "Will my opinion help or hurt this conversation. What emotional states could my opinion trigger?"


2. Speak with Emotion

"Feelings! I don't go by feelings! That would get you killed in war!" - Henry Rollins

The ability to alter emotional states is a key component in seduction. By choosing the right words and speaking it with the right attitude, you can mold emotional states like clay. Be passionate about what you say. When you respond to people's stories, do it with real curiosity.

- Ask yourself, "What is this person'semotional state? What emotional state do I want them in? What can I say to change it?"

- Pay attention to the patterns in their emotional states. Find a way to change the pattern and you will stand out in her mind.


3. Strategically Flatter Her

"The aim of flattery is to soothe and encourage us by assuring us of the truth of an opinion we have already formed about ourselves." - Dame Edith Sitwell

Everyone needs to be validated in one way or another. The key to real flattery is having the ability to deduce what part of a person needs to be validated. Telling a beautiful girl that she has "amazing eyes" wont get you anywhere, because she's already been complimented on them thousands of times.You're just the next guy. Instead, find something that she is insecure about in her life, compliment her on this and she will never forget you

- Use your compliments to ease any insecurities and doubts they have about themselves.

- Stay away from complimenting anything that she is known for or is complimented on regularly.

- In most cases the compliments should not be sexual.


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Build Instant Social Proof

To understand social proof, imagine two different scenarios.


SCENARIO #1

A man walks into a bar, after stepping through the front door he looks around, and doesn't see anyone he knows. He then walks over to a table and sits by himself.

A few minutes later he approaches the most attractive woman in the bar, his opener is perfect and he has good body language, but for some reason she shoots him down.


SCENARIO #2

The same man walks into the bar with a beautiful woman on each arm. When he walks in, he's greeted by a number of friends and seems to know everyone at the bar. When he talks, people stand around and listen. That night he is seen talking to a number of different women.

Later on he walks up to the most attractive woman in the bar and opens perfectly, with great body language. She immediately begins to show interest in him.


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What is the difference between these two scenarios? Social Proof. In the first scenario, this guy appears to have no social value. In the second scenario, everyone knows him. This proves to the women in the room he has a large group of friends and that he is preselected by women. Friends are evidence of value. The more friends the more value.

The great news is even if you aren't out with a large group, you can make it appear as though you have social proof with the tactic of quickly opening sets and merging them:

* Walk in and smile. Approach and open the first group you see. Spend a few minutes chatting and then do a take away. If you have a wing, send him to open a different set.

* Quickly find the next set that you can open. Even if there is no girl you are interested in, open them. They can still give you value.

* Introduce that group of people to the first group of people that you met. This is called backwards merging. Essentially, you've just shown both groups of people thatyou have a number of friends in the bar.

Contingencies: People will leave the larger group. They may have other friends in the bar that you haven't met. This isn't a problem. You now have a number of acquaintances moving around the bar.

Assuming you gave them a good impression when you first approached them, they should be easy to reopen. The idea is that each person in a set becomes a connection to other people in the bar.

What To Do If Your Nervous With Women

For many men approaching women can be very nerve wracking.

This is normal. Many men have a fear of rejection when it comes to approaching women. Men hate to lose, and being rejected feels like losing. And the idea of being rejected by a woman can be kind of scary.

Unfortunately, this fear of rejection could be holding you back from meeting the right person. Another disadvantage to this fear is that you are giving the woman all the power, and essentially making yourself appear weak. And it certainly isn't doing your self esteem and overall well-being any good at all.

You have to learn that rejection is just part of the dating game. If you want to succeed, you will have to realize that you're going to face some rejection somewhere along the way.

How can you overcome this fear?

First, you need to change your mindset to approaching women. It is important that you approach women regularly, whether they are good-looking or not. And don't approach just them because you want to seduce them.

From talking to many women, I've discovered that they want to be approached. And even if they aren't interested in the guy that approached them, they are usually flattered that they were noticed. They even brag to their friends on the phone. You should feel good about that. It helps you become less nervous about talking to them.

You'll find it much easier to reduce fear of rejection when you keep in mind that approaching women is a good deed you are doing for them.

Interacting with women should be about learning: getting to know a new person, deciding if you like her, seeing if she likes you, finding out if you get along. Whatever the outcome, it's okay because it was all about learning.

That's the key to releasing the fear. If she doesn't like you, you didn't fail. You succeeded at learning that the two of you did not hit it off. When you look at it this way, it's not so scary anymore.

I know it sounds simple, but if you practice it you'll see that it works.

The next thing you need to do is make a habit of approaching women. Don't set out with any goal other than to talk. Don't worry about getting her number or asking her out; simply have a conversation. See what you learn from it.

Make your goal to approach 1 woman the first night. Then 3 women the next night, and 4 women after that.

By the time you have approached 8 women, you will have noticed something. It gets easier.

You'll also notice that you'll have great conversations with some of these women. That alone will give you with more confidence about yourself than you had before you started.

Once you have approached 8 women, and have had a couple of conversations with them, you are over the hard part. After that, it's all easy sailing.

I'm not saying you won't get nervous approaching women, but you'll probably find that you are only really nervous before you approach the first woman on any given night.

You'll come to realize that it really is a ratio thing. Many women want to be approached and have a chat, but some don't. That's just the way it is.

The good thing is that even if you don't get her phone number, the next time you see her, you are now familiar to her, so she'll be more willing to trust you and talk to you.

You'll become good friends with some women, and chances are they'll wind up introducing you to their hot friends. That makes the whole female seduction strategy easier. You have instant credibility when you are introduced to them by their friend. You Know? Its Like Networking..

How to Behave on a First Date

No matter how good or bad I am, everyone makes mistakes. To some friends, i may be so call very good with women. But that’s their point of view. I do make silly mistakes. We talk about first dates. Every one of us will make mistakes. I did make mistakes on a recent “first date”. The reason, the first date came too fast, and I was caught unprepared. But there, lesson learned. ”We have to remember there are so such things as failure, only feedbacks.” The fact is, even the most handsome, confident, guys do flung at their first dates. So if u are reading this now, this means we are in this together. We will and can overcome anything.

So, Let's Begin......

Well if you have managed to arrange a date with a girl, you have done a lot of the hard work. However, for some guys it often unravels on the first date, usually because the date becomes boring or uncomfortable. Two things might happen, she might say “let’s just be friends” and you might lose the chance of a relationship with her, or she just might not want to see you again. How do you ensure a 1st date goes smoothly and makes her want to see you again?

1. Treat her like she is already your girlfriend.

You can often tell a couple that are on a first date. Likewise you can tell a couple that has been together a long time. The difference is very clear in body language, the way they react to each other, and how comfortable they look. A pretty girl has had plenty of awkward and uncomfortable first dates. The best way to be comfortable is to imagine that she is already your girlfriend. You should be casual in the way you speak to her, not find silences uncomfortable, smile, be relaxed. When you are at ease, she will be at ease. When you are uncomfortable, she will be uncomfortable.

2. Make her feel something

To make a truly memorable first date, the girls emotions should not be flat. Imagine her mood like the line on a polygraph, her emotions should be spiking every now and then. A conversation that doesn’t cause any of those spikes is usually boring. So what things will make her feel something:

Playfully teasing her.

Talking about things she loves or is passionate about.

Introducing sexual tension by the way you look at her.

Talking passionately about things in your own life.

Making her imagine experiences.

Uncovering memories with emotions attached.

3. Find Connections

You have connections to pretty much every human being. By asking open questions and asking things like: “what is something you love to do?” You will be able to find out what she cares about, and the things that we can connect on. The conversation needs to be free flowing and not on rails, so use any new information she gives you to explore new topics.

4. Stay out of the “friend zone”

How do you make sure you put yourself in the lover category and don’t get the “let’s just be friends” speech? The fastest way to the friends zone is to act like an acquaintance by having a casual conversation about surface topics that don’t make her feel anything. Don’t do that. What else? They touch and look at the girl in a non-sexual way. Throw in some touching that only boyfriends do – nudging, tiggling, poking, hand holding, and look at her in a seductive way now and then. Be polite, gentlemanly, and respectful but also tease a bit. Mix it up!

Getting a girl on a first date is the hard part. It usually means she is attracted to you and once on the date, it is in your hands. Remember that most guys will act the same way and ask the same boring questions and be uncomfortable. If you can be different to all the others, you’ll stand out in a positive way and she’ll want to see you again and again.

The Game Knows : Movies

Movies are a valuable reference for all players, not only because they can be entertaining, but because they can be very educational as well if you know which ones to watch. Just about everyone sits down to relax and watch a movie every once in a while, so while you're at it why not learn a few things that can possibly help you pick up more women? It's a no-brainer.

Watching the right movies can actually be one of the best ways to learn how to deal with women in the real world, because you can see and hear the way that the actors portraying these master seducers engage with the women that they are picking up. In many cases, this visual way of learning is the best for some people, and seeing it in action may actually help you learn how to properly visulaize and use all of the stuff that you are learning here.

Below I've put together a list of my favorite movies that are related to dealing with women, all of which can teach you a ton of useful tips if you pay close attention and have an open mind.

1) Hitch

Hitch (Will Smith) is Alex Hitchens, a professional romance consultant or Date Doctor. If you're a lonely, single man in New York City, he's the guy you want to call. Hitch believes that, under the right circumstances, any man can win the heart of any woman. Arranging those circumstances and making sure they're exactly right is where he comes in. Say you're a clumsy, overweight business executive like Albert Brenneman (Kevin James) and you're hopelessly in love with the beautiful heiress you work for (Amber Valletta), Hitch will make your dreams come true. He'll teach you how to make a strong first impression and he'll coach you through the first date, the first dance and the first kiss.

****** Rating In Terms To Improving Your Social Life : 10/10 ******

2)The Tao Of Steve

The title refers to the prototypical cool guy, a Steve McQueen, Steve McGarrett or Steve Austin, a man without need who has the ability to attract woman effortlessly. It`s the code by which a group of guys try to live, particularly articulate philosopher king Dex (Logue), an oversized kindergarten teacher with a hyper sex drive and a charming and incredibly effective way with women that somehow gets them to chase him. Dex is self-indulgence personified, until he meets Syd (Goodman) - an old college fling who doesn`t respond to his technique and uncovers a person who still may be able to grow up. Starring: Donal Logue, Matthew Hotsinpiller, Greer Goodman, James "Kimo" Wills, Ayelet Kaznelson, David Aaron Baker, Nina Jaroslaw, John Hines, Selby Craig, and Craig D. Lafayette. Directed By: Jenniphr Goodman.

****** Rating In Terms To Improving Your Social Life : 9.5/10 ******

3)Van Wilder

Van Wilder is a guy who has been at his college for seven years. He spends most of his time throwing parties and "fund raisers". When his father decides that it's time for tough love, he doesn't pay his tuition. So Van becomes a professional party thrower. At the same time, Gwen who writes for the college paper, is tasked with doing a story on him, but Van is too busy partying to do that. So she writes it using info from people who talk about him and writes an unflattering piece, which doesn't make him happy. He then dares her to see if she can get the true story but is more interested in trying to score with her, which is not easy because she has a boyfriend, who is a snob, and who is not too happy with the amount time she is spending with him. So he tries to get rid of him

****** Rating In Terms To Improving Your Social Life : 9.5/10 ******

4)Wedding Crashers

John Beckwith (Owen Wilson) and Jeremy Grey (Vince Vaughn), Washington D.C.'s top divorce mediators and lifelong best friends, have never met a wedding they couldn't charm their way into. Guided by a secret set of wedding crashing rules, the pair attends a different wedding -- and romances different bridesmaids -- every week. But, when they crash the social event of the season, John falls for the daughter (Rachel McAdams) of an influential and eccentric politician (Christopher Walken) and decides to break the rules in pursuit of her love. What results is a wild weekend at her family's palatial estate where the ultimate crashers quickly find themselves in way over their heads

****** Rating In Terms To Improving Your Social Life : 8/10 ******

5)What Women Want

Nick Marshall, Playboy and Hot Shot in advertising, thinks he's God's gift to women. Nick, the divorced "man's man" who can charm almost any woman into bed makes this high-concept comedy a must see. After a little accident, he discovers that he is suddenly able to hear what women really think. First, Nick is pretty disappointed when he discovers that his beloved macho behaviour does not exactly contribute to being desired. Then, his upcoming dream position in the company is being given to a new team member: Darcy, not only a woman, but a man-eating one, also is a very talented ad expert. So, Nick decides to sabotage his new boss by reading her thoughts and selling her ideas as his own. Unfortunately, love gets in his way.

****** Rating In Terms To Improving Your Social Life : 7/10 ******

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6)Made Of Honor

Made of Honor revolves around Tom and Hannah, who have been platonic friends for 10 years. He's a serial dater, while she wants marriage but hasn't found Mr. Right. Just as Tom is starting to think that he is relationship material after all, Hannah gets engaged. When she asks Tom to be her "maid" of honor, he reluctantly agrees just so he can attempt to stop the wedding and woo her.

Ratings : The key point to this movie the main lead's body language, How he uses the cocky funny techniques to handle the chicks around him.And how he overcome everything when he tries to woo his best female friend.