What To Do If Your Nervous With Women

For many men approaching women can be very nerve wracking.

This is normal. Many men have a fear of rejection when it comes to approaching women. Men hate to lose, and being rejected feels like losing. And the idea of being rejected by a woman can be kind of scary.

Unfortunately, this fear of rejection could be holding you back from meeting the right person. Another disadvantage to this fear is that you are giving the woman all the power, and essentially making yourself appear weak. And it certainly isn't doing your self esteem and overall well-being any good at all.

You have to learn that rejection is just part of the dating game. If you want to succeed, you will have to realize that you're going to face some rejection somewhere along the way.

How can you overcome this fear?

First, you need to change your mindset to approaching women. It is important that you approach women regularly, whether they are good-looking or not. And don't approach just them because you want to seduce them.

From talking to many women, I've discovered that they want to be approached. And even if they aren't interested in the guy that approached them, they are usually flattered that they were noticed. They even brag to their friends on the phone. You should feel good about that. It helps you become less nervous about talking to them.

You'll find it much easier to reduce fear of rejection when you keep in mind that approaching women is a good deed you are doing for them.

Interacting with women should be about learning: getting to know a new person, deciding if you like her, seeing if she likes you, finding out if you get along. Whatever the outcome, it's okay because it was all about learning.

That's the key to releasing the fear. If she doesn't like you, you didn't fail. You succeeded at learning that the two of you did not hit it off. When you look at it this way, it's not so scary anymore.

I know it sounds simple, but if you practice it you'll see that it works.

The next thing you need to do is make a habit of approaching women. Don't set out with any goal other than to talk. Don't worry about getting her number or asking her out; simply have a conversation. See what you learn from it.

Make your goal to approach 1 woman the first night. Then 3 women the next night, and 4 women after that.

By the time you have approached 8 women, you will have noticed something. It gets easier.

You'll also notice that you'll have great conversations with some of these women. That alone will give you with more confidence about yourself than you had before you started.

Once you have approached 8 women, and have had a couple of conversations with them, you are over the hard part. After that, it's all easy sailing.

I'm not saying you won't get nervous approaching women, but you'll probably find that you are only really nervous before you approach the first woman on any given night.

You'll come to realize that it really is a ratio thing. Many women want to be approached and have a chat, but some don't. That's just the way it is.

The good thing is that even if you don't get her phone number, the next time you see her, you are now familiar to her, so she'll be more willing to trust you and talk to you.

You'll become good friends with some women, and chances are they'll wind up introducing you to their hot friends. That makes the whole female seduction strategy easier. You have instant credibility when you are introduced to them by their friend. You Know? Its Like Networking..