How to Seamlessly Get Her Back to Your Place‏

Answer: The MacGuffin.

Alfred Hitchcock coined the term "MacGuffin" as a narrative devise in his films that is used to advance the story along. The MacGuffin motivates the characters and keeps the action rolling along. Your fish tank. Your cat, your hamster who runs on his wheel backwards. The YouTube video that had you cracking up at work all day. Your framed, autographed, life size poster of Rick Moranis in My Blue Heaven.

It doesn't matter what it is as long as it's interesting and you're passionate about it. Remember, the MacGuffin serves a purpose. It motivates the characters and drives the story.

To effectively use a MacGuffin it needs to be "seeded." Seed it earlier in the interaction by bringing it up in conversation, speak excitedly about it and why it's important but then drop it.

Don't invite her just yet or hint that she should "check it out later." Get her interested in it and then change the subject. You've just seeded the MacGuffin and if you spend the rest of the night on a fun, emotionally stimulating date then it will pay off for you later.

The MacGuffin only proves valuable after the two of you form a connection. Whisk her off on an adventurous evening, make each other laugh, tease each other. Or sweep her off her feet on a romantic night. Plan a memorable date that makes the barriers fall and emotions rise.

There's no magic formula but an officially good date is one that brings the two of you together to share a unique, stimulating experience and relaxes you both into dropping your guard and growing comfortable around one another. All great dates involve the making or strengthening of an emotional connection.

Then, as the date is winding to an end, you mention the MacGuffin again and it's almost like an afterthought. "Oh, you gotta see that YouTube
clip I was telling you about real quick." It’s always real quick. She can’t stay long.

I place that false time constraint even on my beloved, go-to MacGuffin: Guitar Hero. "If you beat 'Welcome to the Jungle' on medium you get a cookie. But we're only playing two songs each because that game is so addictive it's evil and plus I gotta be up early tomorrow."

You must give her plausible deniability. You're creating a situation for the both of you to be
swept up in the emotional current of the evening and the MacGuffin prevents a break in the
momentum.

For a woman, going into a man's home with him causes a jolt of caution. You're job is to create
a non-threatening atmosphere for the two of you to be alone in your apartment that won't leave
her feeling too promiscuous.

Once a woman agrees and accompanies you back to your place then the MacGuffin has successfully served its purpose. Consider her willingness to be alone with you in such a setting as a sign of comfort and a green light in general. The final stages of physical escalation can now begin.